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People judge me by what I wear – Hijab

by | May 30, 2021

As the adage goes: Do not judge a book by its cover. Apparently, this saying does not apply to Muslim women. People shouldn’t make assumptions about a person based on their attire. But don’t get me wrong; wearing the Hijab is an open expression of a woman’s Islam.

Regardless of passing judgment, why even bother to wear the Hijab in the first place? Great question, and a question that deserves an answer if it is asked out of curiosity or comprehension and not out of disdain.

First of all, as we have mentioned before, anything ordained by Allah must be accomplished:

And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.

Surah An-Nour (24 – 31)

Now, before going into more detail about the reasons for wearing the Hijab, let us see what exactly is the Hijab. Basically, the proper Hijab is not just a scarf or a head veil worn around the hair; It is a complete expression of modesty and dignity, it is a way of life, a mindset. Only the face and hands may be uncovered.

Asma, daughter of AbuBakr, entered upon the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) wearing thin clothes. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) turned his attention from her. He said: O Asma’, when a woman reaches the age of menstruation, it does not suit her that she displays her parts of body except this and this, and he pointed to his face and hands.

Sunan Abi Dawud, Book of Clothing, Book 33, Hadith 4092.

The attire worn must be opaque, loose, and non-attracting the gaze by its design or color. Now, let’s look at the advantages for women who wear it.

To any sane-minded person, the Hijab is a sexual turn-off. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a guy… don’t need to say more, and sexuality is not taboo in Islam; it is however to be expressed between husband and wife intimately in the privacy of their home. A community void of sexualization or sexual connotation builds a healthier society.

Plus, so much of society is built on appearances; physical perfection. Islam, via the Hijab, liberates women from these imposed norms. You become judged by who you are, not what you wear. In western societies, women have been duped into believing that showing their body is a sign of liberty; some notion that wearing g-strings, low-rise pants, and sport-bras is somehow connected to freedom. If these things were truly comfortable; believe me, men would be wearing them all the time. These clothes (or threads) were not conceived for women, they are only there to appeal to men and are sold under the falsehood of trend and fashion only to get women into them. The proof is in advertising; you want to sell beer, here are women dancing in tuques and bikini; want to advertise the Grand-Prix, looks like a strip club; watching a sporting event, I’ve never seen many male cheerleaders!?! Women have been objectified, used, and abused by sexuality in the name of liberty, and they don’t even notice it! And if it would only be left to men to decide, why would anyone be against this, this curtails his desires. It is Allah, through his word who puts an end to this by empowering the woman with freedom; freedom from peer pressure, fashion, and physical perfection.

Some point out that Muslim women who wear the Hijab are secluded from society. If that is so, is the problem the Muslim women who wear the Hijab, or is it how society looks at her? The less something is present in society, the more difficult it is for the minority. However, the bond created within this minority is strong; a sisterhood of sorts. Understanding what one goes through, living the same reality as someone else is encouraging and fortifying.

One last note about the Hijab, many critics of Islam point out that it is “unfair” that the woman must cover up while the man doesn’t. Actually, this is not true, men also have a dress code; although different (some would argue less strict). Since the nature of man and woman is different; it is kind of normal for the dress code to be different (I hope I don’t have to go into detail on an anatomy class). Moreover, the man has a requirement not required from women (because he is different). It is forbidden for a man to shave his beard:

… the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ordered trimming the mustache and leaving the beard to grow.

Jami At-Tirmidhi, Chapters on Manners, Vol. 5, Book 41, Hadith 2764.

Now, Muslim men and women apply this dress code in order to satisfy Allah, we have also seen practical reasons and advantages for doing so; but there is one reason we have not explored, nor have I seen in any literature: similarity.

As Casanova was known to find beauty in each woman. We are no Casanovas, and thankfully so; yet the more women cover-up, the more they look alike. Until you get married and discover the true beauty of your wife; for she will be the most beautiful since you did not have to compare her with any other woman. As it goes for men, differentiation is predominant in two features of the face; that is why when it comes to face recognition, the eyes and the jaw region are targeted. So by having bearded men, they resemble one another more than if they were shaved.

Now, one might ask what is the criterion in choosing a partner (i.e. husband or wife)

The Messenger of Allah said: “When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad).”

Jami Al-Tirmidhi, The Book on Marriage, Vol. 2, Book 6, Hadith 1084.

The Prophet said: “Indeed the woman is married for her religion, her wealth, and her beauty, so take the one with religion, and may your hands be dusty.” (the last part is a kind of damnation if you do not follow this advice, not commonly used any more in Arabic)

Jami Al-Tirmidhi, The Book on Marriage, Vol. 2, Book 6, Hadith 1086.

Looks are secondary to religion and character; for even if you have the most beautiful wife/husband, if you are not satisfied, you will still search somewhere else.

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Is there Anything Bad in the Quran? – Existential Questions

Is there Anything Bad in the Quran? – Existential Questions

When I mean bad, I mean something that everyone will agree to as fundamentally wrong. I don’t mean what is acceptable to modern standards, but fundamentally evil. Not only there is no evil within what is ordained, but it can only be depicted as righteous and good when looked at as a whole. Here are some Islamic principles that are listed in the Quran:

Say, “Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands] that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, good treatment, and do not kill your children out of poverty; We will provide for you and them. And do not approach immoralities – what is apparent of them and what is concealed. And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed] except by [legal] right. This has He instructed you that you may use reason.”

And do not approach the orphan’s property except in a way that is best until he reaches maturity. And give full measure and weight in justice. We do not charge any soul except [with that within] its capacity. And when you testify, be just, even if [it concerns] a near relative. And the covenant of Allah fulfill. This has He instructed you that you may remember.

And, [moreover], this is My path, which is straight, so follow it; and do not follow [other] ways, for you will be separated from His way. This has He instructed you that you may become righteous.

Surah Al-Anam (6 – 151-153)

Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.

Surah An-Nahl (16 – 90)

And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.

And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.”

Your Lord is most knowing of what is within yourselves. If you should be righteous [in intention] – then indeed He is ever, to the often returning [to Him], Forgiving.

And give the relative his right, and [also] the poor and the traveler, and do not spend wastefully.

Indeed, the wasteful are brothers of the devils, and ever has Satan been to his Lord ungrateful.

And if you [must] turn away from the needy awaiting mercy from your Lord which you expect, then speak to them a gentle word.

And do not make your hand [as] chained to your neck or extend it completely and [thereby] become blamed and insolvent.

Indeed, your Lord extends provision for whom He wills and restricts [it]. Indeed He is ever, concerning His servants, Acquainted and Seeing.

And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin.

And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.

And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden, except by right. And whoever is killed unjustly – We have given his heir authority, but let him not exceed limits in [the matter of] taking life. Indeed, he has been supported [by the law].

And do not approach the property of an orphan, except in the way that is best, until he reaches maturity. And fulfill [every] commitment. Indeed, the commitment is ever [that about which one will be] questioned.

And give full measure when you measure, and weigh with an even balance. That is the best [way] and best in result.

And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.

And do not walk upon the earth exultantly. Indeed, you will never tear the earth [apart], and you will never reach the mountains in height.

All that – its evil is ever, in the sight of your Lord, detested.

That is from what your Lord has revealed to you, [O Muhammad], of wisdom. And, [O mankind], do not make [as equal] with Allah another deity, lest you be thrown into Hell, blamed and banished.

Surah Al-Isra (17 – 23-39)

Most of the accusations come from people who do not agree with the standard of morality or virtue that is ordained in Islam. For instance, the Hijab for women; not being allowed to have a sip of wine or not even having a girlfriend… These practices have become customary in “modern” civilizations, yet they are considered illicit in Islam. Society is always faced with dumbing down standards and laws to curtail the desires of the majority. But the fundamental question remains; what makes it right now but made it wrong before (and vice versa)? This type of thinking induces decadence. Virtues and morals become trivial, unattainable utopias, unrealistic… mockeries.

This was the same discourse used by the people of Lot thousands of years ago when they wanted him and his family out of their city.

But the answer of his people was only that they said, “Evict them from your city! Indeed, they are men who keep themselves pure.”

Surah Al-Aaraf (7 – 82)

Wow! Accused of being too pure… It’s like someone who says: “Ah! He gets on my nerves because he is too polite.” or: “look at her; she thinks she is so superior! She doesn’t even want to dress like us.” and the classic: “Look at that geek; he thinks that his A+ is going to stop him from that face pounding.” What is it that makes that person’s conduct wrong in the first place; what did he do to deserve this reprimand? Is it high self-esteem (or lack of it)? Is it because a person is different (where his difference is not accepted)? Is it because of jealousy (or more likely envy)?

It is sad to see that we have reached a point where righteous conduct is ridiculed and marginalized. Someone who gives his seat on the bus is looked at awkwardly; a student who says Mam and Sir is called a suck-up; a 16-year-old virgin is made fun of. But, as we have seen, this attitude has been present for millennia, all depending on the context and stage in which a society is to be found.

But in the end…

And it will be said to those who feared Allah, “What did your Lord send down?” They will say, “[That which is] good.” For those who do good in this world is good; and the home of the Hereafter is better. And how excellent is the home of the righteous –

Surah An-Nahl (16 – 30)


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